In certain times in life there are moments and situations that can occur, or else some issues to deal with, that in some circumstances force you to remain lonely or almost with no friends to talk to and share opinions with. Finding yourself in a similar situation is not at all pleasing, since socializing in life is quite important for your overall mental health, relieving stress and depression worries. Many situations can bring you to this, like for example, that you have just split up from quite a long term relationship, and doing so you have in a way neglected old friends, or best friends have moved away from the area due to having found a new job offer in a distant city.
Growing up in life and with time, things simply change, and long-time friends can have other issues to deal with like marriage or career transitions, and so you will need to adapt to certain circumstances that can alter your current lifestyle and force you to develop a new social figure. Many people claim to have difficulty in finding new friends during their adulthood due to a natural decrease from a teen age when you are at school, and when creating friendship is quite easy at that age.
How could you deal with remaining lonely and without friends to communicate with. In order to succeed socially or at least try to have someone that you could rely on for help or for simple friendship, will certainly require you to do something about it, and so just waiting for new friends to come is not an ideal option. Depending on your situation, you need to socialize with possible current contacts, even if slightly known, and start a simple conversation, reminding yourself to look at life in a positive way, strengthening your self-esteem, so the new people you meet will look at you positively and be more interested in your friendship and your company.
Interact the most possible, whether you are at work or in a bar to drink a coffee. You can try joining groups like a gym or an evening class, where you will surely find people being regularly present without the need for you to go around searching for them. Make yourself be likeable to others, as so to make potential friends become stronger and lasting ones. Start new conversations even with a complete stranger and just be friendly, by talking about any particular situation that has occurred in daily news or around in your city.
Once you are able to form a certain friendship, you can try to invite this person to do something together, like going for a drink or hanging out at a popular place. Remember that finding a new friend can potentially bring you other new ones, once he makes you enter his own social circle presenting you to his best friends. Once you have found new friends to hang out with, and you have familiarized with their personalities, and most importantly, that you find these people very interesting, you should go on to building a more and more stronger relationship, by not just inviting them occasionally, but rather being more of a regular and constant friend by calling or hearing from them almost daily.
You are trying to stabilize your new friendship and working to tighten it, as so to build trust and esteem with this group. Now you have finally reached a level in which a new group of friends has accepted in having you as a member of their social circle.
You could feel free to be comfortable with one or two friends, or else if you are good at socializing, want to continue meeting more friends as to expand more your social presence. It all depends on you and your personal desires, based on your attitude and with what you feel comfortable with. So finally just don't forget to keep friendship valuable and to maintain a healthy communication towards your new friend.
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